Retirement Adventure #4: Enjoy Spontaneity

Easy Spontaneity

The summer continues to speed by, each day full. I looked forward to a Saturday of quiet relaxation. Van wouldn’t be home, the house looked neat and tidy, and a new book beckoned. Little did I know an adventure born in spontaneity awaited.

My daughter, Erin, my son-in-love, Phil, and two oldest grandchildren, Zach and Katie, arrived late Friday night, using our house as a momtel on their way to a reunion of Erin’s high school youth group. Saturday morning everyone expected to leave the house by 9:00, leaving me and my book.

When I woke up at 5:00, Erin sat in the living room, wide awake. She works the graveyard shift and has trouble adjusting her sleeping pattern on her days off. I grabbed a cup of coffee and joined her for a rare chance at some face-time.

“Want to come with us, Mom?” Erin asked.

My heart soared with joy. Join my beautiful daughter and grandkids instead of reading on the couch? Absolutely. They planned on water skiing and rafting; I’d read while I enjoyed some sunshine at Big Bear Lake. I threw towels and my book in a bag, helped make sandwiches, and loaded up my car.

As soon as we arrived, hugs, high-fives, and a little catching up among old friends. Before too long, our family hopped on the speed boat. Erin and two friends got on the huge three-seater raft to get pulled behind the boat. Fun to watch, but not for me I thought. I enjoyed watching Erin laughing while she bounced up and down and the gorgeous scenery provided by God.

When the first group finished and everyone encouraged Zach and Katie to go next, they politely declined. I heard myself volunteer, “I’ll go with you.” But I sighed with relief when they still said no.

Adventurous Spontaneity

Once we headed back to shore, I watched Zach teach one of Erin’s friends how to solve a rubix cube and Katie share her art supplies with a four year old. At sixteen and fourteen, their patience and kindness brought a smile to my heart.

I spent time in the chilly lake chatting with Katie, and laughed when I went bottom over teakettle trying to sit on the floatie. What’s a little sand in my hair when I can hear what Katie looks forward to when she starts high school next month?

Finally ready to settle down with my book, I let myself be talked into riding on the raft instead. “It’ll be fun,” Linda promised. “We won’t go too fast.”

I didn’t let myself think too much. “Yes,” I agreed. And in that moment, another opportunity for God’s goodness arrived. Katie joined me. Linda kept her promise. We didn’t go to fast, and the laughter I shared with Katie is stored in my heart forever. A cherished memory I never expected.

Choosing Spontaneity over My Comfort Zone

God planned beautiful gifts for me over the weekend. But I needed to get out of my comfort zone and accept the gifts He offered. How often do we miss the abundant life God gives because we sit on the sidelines instead of grabbing life with both eyes wide open in gratitude?

What spontaneous adventure waits for you this week? I recommend you say yes when God reaches out with gifts in unexpected ways. I’d love to hear how choosing spontaneity brings unexpected blessings in your life.

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Author: Debbie Putman

I am a child of God, seeking to trust Him in every joy and sorrow. Sharing my walk is my husband, Van. God blessed me with two beautiful daughters and three delightful grandchildren. I teach seventh grade English and History, love to read and bake cookies, watch the birds in my backyard, and the ocean.

17 thoughts on “Retirement Adventure #4: Enjoy Spontaneity”

  1. What a wonderful encouragement. I can get so stuck in my plan I refuse to be spontaneous. I am really going to work on this. Next, week I am taking a week off from writing and I can’t wait to see what spontaneous things I might do. However, I was really looking forward to sitting and reading.

    1. Being spontaneous doesn’t mean giving up everything; that would be disastrous. But, like so many, I struggle with wanting my perfect life of quiet and tasks checked off. I want to remember God wants me to enjoy the people He gives. More memories and future relationships are built in occasional chaos and giving up sitting alone. I still have the option of saying no when I need time to myself, which I do need! I want to prayerfully consider all the choices God gives and sometimes choose to be spontaneous. Praying you enjoy a little reading and quiet time to refresh and some spontaneous fun too.

  2. Dear Debbie, I am really enjoying your blog. You make retirement sound so attractive! In our busy lives, spontaneity usually seems like a lost art form, not that I’ve ever been good at it. But grandkids trump nearly everything else, reminding us of what’s really important. Prayers for Katie as she enters high school, and blessings for you as you provide her with unconditional love.

    1. Thank you, Alice. So far, I love retirement and am looking forward to many more fun adventures-both planned and spontaneous. I’m not very good at spontaneity either, most of the time. But I want to be more open to stepping forward into enjoying the abundance of goodness God places in front of me.

  3. I really enjoyed reading your post! Sounds like you had a great time with family. I definitely need to be more spontaneous. I tend to feel more comfortable planning ahead. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Cathy, I’m more comfortable planning ahead, too. But I’ve learned there are certain things some of the best memories come from the spontaneous adventures. Trying new things just because it means I’m spending time with people I love…I do put my foot down about things I’m not comfortable with!

    2. Cathy, I’m definitely more comfortable planning ahead, but who can pass up time with family? A quiet, clean house is lovely, but I cherish the chaos of family. . .and that’s what I’ll always remember.

  4. It’s so easy to fall into a rut and choose comfort over being spontaneous, but God often leads us away from comfort so that we can learn to trust Him more! Thanks for your post!

  5. This is an area I definitely need to improve in! I’m not very spontaneous by nature, so I have to be intentional about it (does that defeat the purpose? ha). Thanks for sharing this story, Debby. It encourages me to see others being brave so I can be brave too. 🙂

    1. Lisa, I don’t think intentional spontaneity defeats the purpose. It means you are ready to accept spontaneous adventures sometimes, even when it disrupts your carefully planned schedule. Praying you let God show you when to say yes to adventure!

Thank you for joining me on my journey with God in uncharted water. Please let me know how He is working in your life.