Every time I stand at the kitchen sink, I stand on Jesus’ words to Martha (Luke 10:38-42), adapted as though He said them directly to me,

Debbie, Debbie, you are worried and concerned about many things, but only one thing is needed. Choose what is best and it will not be taken away from you.

I need those words desperately. The kitchen is my command post and I spend a lot of time there. It’s where I feel the most needed and the most productive. Standing at the sink, I can survey my queendom. From there I can see most of the living area of our home so I know what’s going on. I get a sense of satisfaction when everything around me gleams. Especially when I know guests are coming. Distracted by all the preparations that have to be made, I hustle and bustle to get everything ready. Perfect.

And like Martha, when I try to do it all, I feel overwhelmed and weary. Then I start to fuss and complain. Instead of a friend ready to listen and enjoy others, guests get a hostess who needs a nap.

One of the things Van and I long for in our new home is to show hospitality to others. We want people to feel welcome here, whether we host a Life Group, have friends for dinner and a game of Pegs and Jokers, or invite neighbors in for a cup of coffee. But I battle Martha syndrome.
In my mind, effort matters. Getting everything just right shows care and concern. Many times, I find one more thing to do before I sit and enjoy my guests.

But they really aren’t there because of my decorations, the shiny windows, or even a well-cooked meal (even if it ends with pumpkin pie and ice cream). Every person who walks through the door of our home seeks fellowship. Time to talk, share sorrows and joys, laugh and encourage one another. Long after everyone leaves, our interactions will be remembered, not if the napkins and plates matched.

Jesus’ words to Martha pointed out her need to spend time with Him, the source of living water and the bread of life (John 4:13-14 & 6:35). In order to truly have what she needed, Martha needed to stop everything and rest, spending time with Jesus. Only He could provide the satisfaction she longed for.


Daily, whether it just Van and me, or we have a crowd of people, I need Jesus’ words. I must spend time in His presence, listening, learning, being refreshed. Only then can I offer people the very best: the fruit of the Spirit.

Prayer for the One Thing Truly Needed, Luke 10:41-42

Jesus, I need more of You. I want to sit at Your feet and listen. Learn from You and offer every person in my home the same grace and love You give me. Guard my heart and mind against worry and anxiety about things that don’t matter. Give me the one thing that is needed, You. And then, may I offer Your love to all who come into this home You have so graciously given. Amen.

This is Day Eleven of the #write31days2017 challenge. To read the previous posts in #pray31daysforyourhome, click here.

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